In response to my blog post asking if people had stories about how asshole bosses had done "collateral damage" that spread to family, friends, lovers and the like, people wrote quite a few comments be,low the post -- all were thoughtful and some quite troubling. I also got about 15 emails, some of which got me quite upset, notably one from a woman who felt so beaten down by her bosses criticism that day that she had lost her temper during dinner, leaving her children terrified and husband angry at her. It wasn't all bad news, there was one amusing snippet with a happy ending. An executive from the southwest wrote me about her mean-spirited boss, who led with a blend of incompetence, cluelessness, and micromanagement that damaged employees' spirits and and company performance. She reported, "My children nicknamed him GIANT BUTTHOLE." When your kids give the boss a nickname like that, it is a sure fire sign that you are working for a certified asshole.
This brings up a question that might be instructive to bat around. A lot of people have used the ARSE (Asshole Rating Self Exam) for this purpose, but I wonder, what are other sure signs that your boss is a certified asshole? I always think that when a boss starts eating your food without asking permission it is pretty good sign, as it is such a perfect blend of cluelessness and selfishness. What are some other sure signs your boss is a certified asshole?
The above story has a happy ending, as this executive banded together with her
colleagues and they got Mr. GIANT BUTTHOLE fired. Now has his job and
is committed to building a civilized workplace.
P.S. The above story has a happy ending, as this executive banded together with her colleagues and they got Mr. GIANT BUTTHOLE fired. Now has his job and is committed to building a civilized workplace.