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Teasing takes many forms. Obviously, some is intended to be cruel, some can be unintentionally hurtful, while some can be fun, stimulating and thought provoking for both parties.

If participants have a sense of humor and can laugh at their own idiosycrasies it generally is well received. I, for example, am OCD. Some of my behavior is indeed laughable. Am I offended when friends poke fun at me? Not at all. I know I can tease them as well about there own foibles. It all well intended, and understood as such.

No one can really be hurt by teasing if the source is considered.

The kids who "tease" the nerd at school may be being cruel (if the target really is a nerd). On the other hand, he may just be a friend who's doing something that could be regarded a "nerdy". If said target can laugh at himself, not harm done. See the difference?

So, essentially, wether or not teasing is cruel or fun is circumstantial.

I feel sorry for anyone who can't see the difference.

evden eve nakliyat

very nice


I think teasing can be harmless fun. If it is a quick one liner to the office wag who is going to come back with a hilarous rejoinder this actaully builds things a bit.
If it is making mockery of someones idea in a meeting or teasing the office wallflower or the new junior who has not power, it is Asshole behaviour

Honest Guy

Ok. No teasing. How are you supposed to flirt?

Teasing is only harmful some of the time, methinks.


Thank you for writing this! I have always seen teasing for what it was, an opportunity to make snide remarks at someone else's expense all in the name of "fun." These same people accuse the receiver of "not being to take a joke." Nice post.

Wally Bock

Great topic and post, Bob. It got me thinking about a person I knew who damaged just about everyone around her. On the one hand she was helpful and garnered praise for it. But every encounter included at least one teasing or humorous comment that hurt someone else. No one escaped without a little cut.

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