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Burcu Felekoglu

Thanks for this post. This reminded me the Johari Window concept which is a graphic model of awareness in interpersonal relations developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in the 1950s. Their model has four quadrants: open, blind, hidden and the unknown. I think it is a handy conceptual model to understand how behavior, feelings, and motivation known to self and known to others (which is the open quadrant) constitute the basis for interaction between people as these are commonly understood.

I thought this might be of interest to people who find your post interesting.

P.S. More about the Johari Window can be found in Luft, J. (1984) Group Processes-An introduction to group dynamics. Mayfield Publishing Company, Palo Alto.

Kind Regards


Interesting topic and one I believe applies to everyone. In my opinion people usually have a higher opinion of their selves than others do. This trait is ingrained in their personality, along with defensive mechanisms, from the competitive environments we all are part of in our daily life. Being aware of others' opinion of you and being able to be critical of yourself could definitely go a long way in both your professional and personal life.

I recently read an article from the Wall Street Journal that relates this subject and to my life as an MBA student; check it out of you have time:


David Hinde

Hi Bob,

Thanks for a great post. Not so much thanks for introducing me to yet another great Blog, the BPS, how I’ll ever read all these blogs I’m subscribed to I don’t know!
I do a lot of executive coaching work, and one of the approaches we use is to try and make people more aware of their behaviour using various exercises. Once they are truly aware of how they are acting it is fairly easy to get them to change their behaviours. From my own experience I would say the affect of cognitive dissonance varies from person to person. Some people seem very able to take on new ideas about their personalities and behaviours and some do not. The easier it is for people to do this, the quicker they are to learn.
There’s a lot of interesting ideas about increasing people’s self awareness in Tim Gallwey’s great series of books on sports and business development, The Inner Game series
Kind regards


John Caddell

Bob, I remember playing golf once and watching a guy lining up his shot in the fairway up ahead. "Oh, no! That guy has no chance!" I thought--he was aimed directly at the woods to his left, instead of toward the green, and of course that's where his shot went.

When I reached the same fairway, I carefully lined up, and hit the ball in the exact place the other guy had. What was easy for me to see in others was hidden from myself.

It's very difficult to rise above one's own self and view our actions from the outside. If I could just figure out how to do that, not only would I be a better manager, I'd also improve my golf game!

regards, John

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